Friday, October 31, 2008

Holding It Together

Anyone Can Give Up-
It's the easiest thing to do.
But to hold it together

When everyone would understand if you fell apart

Now that's true strength.



This quote means a lot to me because I am often asked how I keep going. I am a survivor-I have learned that addiction is not my fault and I make sure to find time everyday to take care of myself. Somewhere along this journey I found an inner strength that helps me to prevail no matter what comes my way. Now I am not superwoman and there are times that I break down-the difference is I allow myself a short time to feel bad and even sorry for myself -and then pick myself up and find the solution with my head held high and shoulders square-because what does not kill me makes me stronger!

Thursday, October 9, 2008

I Can Control Every One- Can't I??

I have been called controlling- more than a few times. And as much as I have heard the term used I never was really able to grasp my head around it. It was almost as though I thought these people were really insane- I was not controlling at all- I was just trying to make sure things went the right way in order to save them from themselves. I was thoroughly convinced that if people just did things my way -everything would turn out alright. And if they decided against doing things my way- well it would all just fall apart. And I was very angry when it was not done my way.

Somewhere along the way I found out how to get out of the way. I'm not sure if I matured or if my hard head realized that it was not working for me. That no matter what I thought to be the way things should be -they just did not turn out like that. I learned that the only actions that I could control were my own and when I started to focus on me life was much easier. I no longer was angry all the time because things did not go my way.

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One Day At A Time In Al-Anon

This was my first book ever used. It was actually my mother's and I found it one day as a teenager. Even though I never thought of myself as having any issues from my father's drug use-it spoke to me. Maybe it even made me realize how upside doen his using had made me.  I recommend this book for anyone loving an addict. It is a compilation of daily meditations andcan be used over and over for years. I sometimes make notes in the margins- and it is cool to see the progress (or lck of progress) I made when returning to the page. 

It is a must have!!




Welcome!!!

Welcome!

hope you find this to be a place of serenity. the purpose of this blog is to assist myself back into sanity as well as help others along the way:) I plan to post daily on meditations as well as tidbits to assist in regaining peace in oneself. 

We plan to have a rant section as well as a literature review area. The hope is that this will become a safe haven for all of us who have ever felt the pain and the joy of loving an addict.